Updated: Apr 18, 2018
Live life intentionally.
Happy New Year!
Although I won't take the time to read through every lengthy Facebook post, super-long caption on Instagram, or click on anyone's blog posts about New Year's resolutions, we all know that there was no shortage of sucky moments in the past year. There was sadness, anger, inequity, and unfairness, but there were also smiles, laughs, delicious meals, and plenty of other blessings. Every day that I woke up in 2017 made it a great year but, alas, 2018 is here, and it has no choice but to be even better.
I've said this before, but it bears repeating, as I don't think that New Year's resolutions are the way to go as much as making the decision to always live intentionally. I've been setting goals for myself since before I even knew what a goal was, and I've learned to live my life in a way that leads up to those goals. That's being intentional, and when you live life intentionally, you learn more about yourself, what you want and need, and when it's time to let other things and people go because they prove to not be on that same intentional path.
I used to make the mistake of thinking that living intentionally meant that I needed to know exactly what I wanted. I've learned that I don't need a concrete end goal, just a path to lead me up. Goals will construct themselves over time as you're building experiences- showing you what you want and don't want, compromises that you are willing to make, breaks that you're willing to take, and opportunities for critical self- reflection. To have a resolution, to be resolute, you need a goal. To be intentional, a goal will develop, but all you need is a path.
IF THE WAY YOU'RE LIVING RIGHT NOW IS NOT CONDUCIVE TO YOUR END GOAL, THERE IS NO INTENTION THERE AND EVEN POTENTIAL, THE WHISPER OF PROMISE, IS THE FARTHEST THING FROM YOUR LIFE.
I also used to make the mistake of thinking that living intentionally meant that I could rely on potential. I once found myself revolving around a series of "ifs" that forced me to compare myself to others and made everything feel like nothing was more than a mere possibility even though I was and I am right here in the present thriving and living my own success story. I've learned that the biggest mistake you can make is basing your intentional living on someone else's potential. That can manifest in the form of personal comparison or that of putting faith and work into someone who is not living intentionally on their own. Stating your wants, desires, and dreams is one thing, but living a life that makes those things a reality is intentional. If the way you're living right now is not conducive to your end goal, there is no intention there and even potential, the whisper of promise, is the farthest thing from your life. Looking to the future can create a false dream of circumstances magically coming together to work in your favor, even if you are not doing anything to help yourself get there. I encourage you to look to the future, catch a glimpse of what can be, but live in the present, focusing on what is and what you're doing to make it beyond this point and many many more to finally get there.
I'm challenging you to ask yourself two questions to see if you are living an intentional life:
WHAT DO I NEED TO DO TO GET TO WHERE I WANT TO BE?
HOW IS EVERYTHING THAT I AM DOING RIGHT NOW CONTRIBUTING TO THAT JOURNEY?
If we choose to live more intentionally, life becomes more honest, more fulfilling, and cuts down on wasted time. Make 2018 a great one.